Monday 8 July 2013

Exclusive Mommyhood

What the whaaaat? Ya you heard me. I'm sure there are people reading this who know what I'm talking about. It seems women can't escape their teenaged girl phase...like...ever ;-) I've been pretty good at avoiding the exclusive mom's clubs but they're everywhere. Secret clubs, secret groups, secret playgroups. You have to be approve by so-and-so to get in, and nobody's allowed to actually talk about the group openly, you have to be 'invited' into a conversation about it. Are you following me? Yes, there are hoops to jump through, simply to be social with "like-minded" mothers.

So what's the deal? Why can't we all just play nicely together? Why do we need to be secretive and exclusive, instead of encouraging INCLUSIVE habits like we preach to our children everyday. I'm not against these exclusive groups entirely, sometimes depending on what the group is about, it need to be exclusive in order to keep numbers down {like dinner clubs, wine groups, poker clubs} based on who's hosting and how much space they have in their house. But so keep numbers down...why do people need to be 'approved' to get in one week?

Why can't mother's get out of that teenaged girl phase...like, as if. I mean, idk why there has to be one ring leader and who actually decides on the ring leader? It all seems really silly to me.